As a single mother, I get what it’s like to need to control the details of every day life. It’s part of having a structure and a routine so you can stay sane while you’re juggling a million things; most of them being emotional and mental.
But there’s this breaking point when you realize that something has got to give. When you realize that all the “right” things that you are doing still are not filling that space inside that keeps you longing for something more; something deeper and more fulfilling.
It’s easy to live in a state of “just enough” when you are doing it alone so here I want to share with you a powerful principle, belief, whatever you want to call it. It’s what has kept me on target regardless of what life has thrown my way as a single mom. It’s called…intuition.
Now, to follow your intuition you have to reach a point where you are willing to surrender your life, your circumstances, your children, your ex’s, your fears, your careers, your cars, your clothes, your food, your friends…everything…to a higher power. I call it God, Infinite Spirit, Universe. You call it whatever makes your heart sing and feel full of life and peace.
When you follow the path of intuition, you follow a golden road. A road that leads you to the highest place of spiritual experience on this planet. Love is the highest form of spirituality so allowing yourself to surrender to love and give up the fears you have around love, you open up a space within you to allow God to talk to you. To allow others to love you. To allow love to flow from you.
I was contemplating this the other day and embodying your full feminine energy is more powerful than trying to control life. It means to be slow, powerful, irresistible, peaceful, strong, flexible, open, assertive, loving, gentle. You can raise your children this way. You can work this way. You can eat this way. You can drive your car this way. You can walk through the aisle of the grocery store this way. But it takes you willing to slow down enough, look at your life and say to yourself: “I want more and I want it from the inside first”.
So, your intuition is the voice of your inner wisdom coming through as well as your connection to the Divine. Every day begin with this simple statement or prayer:
“God, please guide me today. Tell me exactly what I need to know about______________. I am open to any messages you have for me and I will listen and pay attention to everything around me. I will listen to your voice within me. If there is anything for me to do, please let me know. Thank you . Amen.”
Say this every day, several times throughout the day and see what emerges. See how listening to the voice of your intuition elevates your life into a different and more fulfilling direction.]]>
Maybe this is a little sappy, but it must be written because this is about Love.
You may not know me but my name is Susan Putman and I’ve had the amazing honor and blessing of spending the majority of my time with children or “the Littles” as I call them.
Surely if you have been around the Littles for long you must alredy know this: to work for the Littles, to share with them the moments of the day is to, well, it’s to Live in Love. You can’t help it for the Littles never think to guard their affection as adults do.
To be moment to moment with the Littles is also to Live in Hope for they are ever hopeful. Looking from where they are now, whether labeled “accomplishment” or “failure” in our adult minds, to their next adventure with enthusiam and a faith and trust in life itself that can not be denied.
Napoleon Hill? Smoleon Hill! Anthony Robbins – go have breakfast. I challenge anyone, anyone at all to truly be among 4 or 5 of my Littles and not come away inspired to love fully, to hope with abandon and to be and do anything – because as the Littles will show you – anything is possible.
Here’s a recent story of love, hope and “anything is possible” from my own day care:
The wonderful lady who comes to my nursery to help each morning came in yesterday filled with worry and woe. She had been up all night with her troubles and they seemed insurmountable. She summoned all her courage to face the day.
Then a Little miracle happened. As she held it together for the Littles, smiled for them, read to them, watched them taking shaky yet resolute first steps and gleefully match the letter to the picture, her shadow was overcome with genuine laughter and simply joy.
Then, a new perspective on her “problem” began to emerge in her mind and solutions began to reveal themselves to her. As she was present to her “job” with the Littles, though tired, she began to feel alive and hopeful. I looked over to see her smiling. She had come up with several possibilities in answer to her need.
So it will be for you. Sure your daycare will pay the bills, yes you can make more than you are making now at a j.o.b. and stay home with your kids, but that is not for me the most magical reason for running your own in-home day care. The magic is that this is the most wonderful uplifting, positive job in the world; the greenest of green occupations, moms and grand-moms (like me) raising children. Simple. True. Beautiful.
Susan Putman has been loving and being inspired by “the Littles” for over 30 years. She has also supported her now grown 3 children through “cars and college” because of the income from her still in operation in-home day care. Susan’s easy to follow, 1-2-3 method, will have you replacing your j.o.b. income in as little 90-days! Learn more about Susan’s Stay With Baby program here: http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?Clk=4155099]]>
If you are feeling stuck in any area of your life, you may be experiencing feelings of
Being stuck is an emotional issue that shows up on the physical plane as all emotional issues eventually do. Not knowing what to do is actually a spiritual blessing in disguise. It gives you an opportunity to surrender yourself and your life to a higher power, to God. It may also be an opportunity to stop and take a look deep within and reflect upon yourself, your life, your values, and what you would like to create in the future.
If there is anything in your life that you feel uncertain about and don’t know what your next steps are, follow this simple process every day until you feel internal and external changes in your life. If you do this every day, you will soon begin to feel and notice changes in your life. You will become aware of what your next steps are and the resources will come to you. God will guide you.
Always remember this: approach every situation in your life with spiritual presence. Not from your head. Not from fear. From love, peace, wisdom and understanding. Heal and release the emotions that keep you from approaching life this way.]]>
Now, I am going to bring to the surface what is not often spoken about. Many single moms swallow the pain of not having the support that they need from friends, family and anyone. Based on the emails I have received and the stories I have read and heard, I can tell you that most single moms are genuinely working as much as they can in every area of their lives to create the best life possible for their entire family. We all have the power to create our desired lives. But today, I am going to talk about the responsibility we have to one another to help each other. So many single parents, mainly moms, NEED help and support. They need a break. They need child care. They need food. They need a way to move forward.
I recently attended a very empowering seminar and in this class the speaker said something that really resonated with me. He said that single parents need to reach out to those around them and say “I need your help so that I can move forward.” This article is partially for single parents but I really writing it for everyone who is not a single parent and who CAN help.
A single mom told me that when she became a single mom and left her abusive marriage (which is way too common these days), she reached out to her father for help and he said to her ” How are you going to do this all by yourself?” and was actually encouraging her to stay and “stick it out”.
If you know a single mom, the words you should say to her are “How can I help you move forward?” not “How are you going to do this all alone?”.
I met a woman a few days ago who used to be a single mom and she said that it is draining physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It can be when the people around you are not supporting you. Not listening to you. Going about their lives and not understanding the kind of ripple effect they are causing by not reaching out to you or responding to you when you ask.
Another single mom has asked a family member several times for assistance and this particular family member hasn’t even replied to her.
It is beyond my comprehension as to why this happens.
I do know this, everyone is living their lives in harmony with their level of awareness and consciousness. Have you heard the saying “If they knew better, they would do better”?
So where does that leave all of these single moms struggling for survival and finding themselves alone at the end of the day with no one to really turn to? First, they need to fearlessly reach out to everyone they know because a little help here and there adds up.
Where does this leave all of those who know single moms but are not responding to their need for help? Well, they are not responsible for the single moms. They cannot “save” them. They can, however, reach out with genuine interest to help make another human beings life better and ask them what they need help with and do what they can to help. It can be as simple as offering to mow their lawn
every now and then or saying call me when you need me. Or better yet, give them a call.
We are here for one another. Yes we all make our own choices but it doesn’t mean that we should abandon one another in times of need. Again, no one ever succeeded alone. I’m not saying that all of the responsibility is on others. That is not the case. What I am saying is that the single moms are fully responsible for their position, however, as a whole, we are on the same spiritual team. Why not show that on a physical level?
This message comes from my heart and I am putting it out there because I am on a mission to help raise awareness to all of the issues single moms face. I provide services and give information that will help single moms heal and empower themselves but the other half of that equation is raising awareness to everyone else so that they can play a part in the lives of these women and their beautiful children who want to and should experience the best of life.
I hope this message stirs something in your heart or mind. Please share it with everyone you know and help me spread this message out to the world.
I know I speak for single moms and any full time single parent when I say that it takes more physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energy to raise children alone than you ever thought was possible. I get it. So in this post, I am going to offer my advice and everything I have done to break through these same feelings in a few steps. You can turn around every situation with the power of your thoughts and you can start today.
If you are not a single parent and you are reading this, then please take this as a message to reach out and help any single parent you know. No one should have to do anything alone.
If you show up to the Universe and you let God know that you are ready to take control of your life and not be a victim to your past experiences, then I promise you your life will start to shift. You must take some kind of action though on the outer level.
On the inner level, take at least 10 minutes every day to write down how you feel, meditate or pray and tune in to your emotions. Release those feelings through visualization or other release techniques. You can go to this link and watch this video on releasing emotions I created for an expo I participated in last year.
Every day do something and your life will start to change. Many of the emails I receive clearly depict a picture of feeling helpless, lost and not knowing what to do. This is what you do. Start with these steps I gave you.
No matter what your life looks like, it can change.
Life is about change and it is constantly moving. What I really got was that we really are the ones that direct our life. We are in charge of it and no circumstance is too big or dark to be healed, changed and brought to the light.
Sometimes life can feel like it’s just not livable. I’ve been there. Moments where you just can’t
see the next step- even the next breath. But what I have learned over the course of my life is
that every breath IS the next step. It is part of the magic that keeps us going. It is divine and
without it we would not be able to experience this life.
So I just wanted to tune in to you, connect and share this piece of myself with you in hopes that
something from my story touches you and inspires you to look at your life and ask this
question: “How can I change what is not working in my life today?”
When I ask myself that question, I feel empowered because I feeeeel myself shifting into the role
of co-creator and authority over my life. No more victim. No more feeling sorry. Complete
responsibility and accountability for my life experience. Sometimes that can be difficult but you
know what? Nothing is more difficult than keeping ourselves stuck in pain, confusion, and
emotional, mental, physical and spiritual stagnation. I have felt the pains of that one too many
times in my life.
I am inviting you to look at where you are right now and look at what is not working for you that
is not supporting you or helping you move forward. Then ask yourself the question I gave you.
Give it some time to marinade and then make a list of everything you can do to help yourself.
Opening the door to possibilities is one of the first steps to take in making lasting and positive change.]]>
Experiencing emotions is normal. That is part of the human journey. However, the consistent experience of negative emotions could be signaling a deeper issue.
I’m not going to go into an entire article about our emotions and how to deal with them. The bottom line is that it’s time to go straight to the core to resolve these emotional symptoms. Our kids are begging for us (the parents) to go deeper, to live deeper, to love them on the deepest level possible. This isn’t a woo-woo concept that I am throwing around. Nor is it a belief that “love heals all”. LOVE DOES heal everything but knowing what that really means is the key.
The only solution, or I should say, the missing element to parenting is knowing how to connect with your child in a way that transforms negative behavior, unhappiness, depression, hyperactivity and really the list goes on. Yes the only path to changing the reality we are facing with our children today is Love. But not the idea of love or the attempt to feel love; the absolute understanding of LOVE.
We have to dig deep, use methods that help us to release what keeps us from getting the feeling of LOVE, and spend every possible moment activating this concept. I show you exactly how to do this in my new program- Parenting With Heart And Soul.
Our children will transform right before our eyes.
One of my clients recently shared with me an amazing story with her young toddler. He was acting out a lot. Hitting. Yelling. After several minutes of this happening, she sat him in his “chair” where he could “take a break” and turned on some soft music. She proceeded to go into her bedroom while her son sat in the chair for 2 minutes. She sat down and started doing one of the techniques we had been working on. He stopped crying before the 2 minutes was up. She approached him with her hands stretched out while saying “I love you”. He hugged her and then said to her “Sometimes, I need to walk away too so I don’t cry”. He told her exactly what he needed so that he would stop hitting and acting out. They talked about his feelings and why he was hitting and made a pact so that the next time it happened, they would both know what to do.
Can you imagine every toddler being able to do this? Imagine how our world would be…
It’s time right now to stop what is happening with our children today. It starts with every parent out there. We HAVE to start doing what is right for our children not what is convenient for us. We must understand that there is a deeper way to experience life and our children are begging for us to get that because they already do. They want us to get there so we can live harmoniously.
Here’s my invitation to you: What can you do starting right now to connect with your child on such a deep level that will help them to diffuse their negativity so that you two can bond and create real loving solutions?
If you’re not sure, you can get a copy of my Energy Directed Parenting Class which has the technique that my client used with her toddler. Just sign up for the free recording on the top right of this page. You will be doing the technique before the recording is over.
My honest desire is to see every parent and child in this world living a life of incredible depth and understanding.
Every experience we have is recorded in our bodies. This is called cell-memory. Throughout our life experience, we pull from this bank of information and make choices based on the perceptions we have created. The perceptions stem from the thoughts we think about an experience.
I created this short video to teach parents and children how to let go of unwanted emotion. We can all process feelings and then let them go without hanging on to them; without taking on that energy that eventually turns up as imbalances in the body such as illnesses and depression.
Take a look at the video and after practicing it, leave me your comments. I would love to know your experiences with it.]]>
To raise a child requires an incredible amount of energy, time and effort. It is a 24/7 job and the most fulfilling role a parent can ever have. I want to bring up a key point in raising children. This is more of an inside-out approach as this is what I believe about life in general. If you align your inner values, beliefs, feelings and overall energy with what you desire on the outside, then you can experience a peaceful and harmonious life. You will have a wealth of tools to choose from as life fluctuates in its natural flow and rhythm.
Raising children is an inside-out process. It starts with you. Being aware of yourself is crucial to the emotional health of your children. If they are emotionally healthy, then naturally they will be aware enough to make wise choices. This is true for all of us. That means that it is important to take note of your fears, your feelings, your values, your behaviors, actions and choices. Everything you do speaks volumes to your children. This includes everything you don’t do as well.
Here are 3 tips that will help you to generate self-awareness on a busy schedule (because all parents single or not have a busy schedule):
Self-awareness is naturally activated as you heal. It gives you a feeling of connectedness to everything and everyone. Having a high level of self-awareness gives you the strength to discern and make choices that will only bring you happiness and fulfillment. The benefits are endless and every part of your life will grow and become rich as a result of your heightened awareness of yourself and those around you.
If you think negative thoughts then you will absolutely struggle. Negative thinking is a low frequency which pulls you out of your natural state of being. You are designed by divine law to BE joy. That is who you are at the core- Love and Joy. Often our past traumas, fears and outdated belief systems keep us stuck in the illusion of the past and what is not real. Only the present moment is real. That is where no issues exist. Negative thinking can also project fears into the future. Projection of your fears, although they are often unintentional, are powerful forces because we believe in them so much. Even if we don’t want them to happen, the belief that certain fears might come to reality keeps us stuck in generating more and more of those same feelings eventually orchestrating the details for those events to occur.
If you think thoughts that are desirable and pleasant then you will be open, receptive and full of inspiration which will direct your actions and choices to create what you desire. You can feel how different life might be simply by entertaining the thought of a more positive mindset. The goal is to eliminate your negative thinking. You don’t have to force yourself to think positive thoughts because that is difficult to do when you are so used to habitual negative thinking. However, if you practice thinking nothing, that is better than thinking fearful thoughts. You can do this by taking 5-10 minutes each day, closing your eyes and focusing on the sound of your breathing or anything that will relax you and keep you focused. It is not difficult but it does take practice. People often think that because negative thoughts take over and they can’t quiet their mind right away that this simple meditation technique is too challenging. Actually, the challenging part is practicing it. Just like it takes practice to learn a new skill, it takes practice to learn how to quiet your mind. This doesn’t necessarily mean it is difficult. It just doesn’t happen instantly.
Whatever you are facing in your life, know that you do have 100% power over it and you can positively influence and shift your life circumstances. You can be an active creator of your life and you can absolutely live a life governed by Universal laws which surpass the laws of this earth. In other words, you can live a life of joy, ease, success, fulfillment, peace and simplicity and not be subject to lower laws which create struggle.
Make a commitment to create a strong and joyful mindset. Expect success to happen. Expect miracles to happen. Expect love to be the foundation of your life. Expect God and the Universe to hear your deep and joyful desires. Expect the best and you will see that your life will shift to produce results aligned to your highest purpose.]]>